I know myself better now, after 39 years on this earth, I’m no longer a stranger to myself.
Hi Self, nice to meet you.
How well do you know yourself?
I have struggled with my emotions and knowing who the fuck I am the majority of my life. I never understood why I did the things I did or felt certain ways. I didn’t know what I wanted or needed or even narrowed down what was important to me.
After the heart-wrenching divorce of my parents at 10, then going through my confounding teens that led me into my even more perplexing 20’s which slid right into my thirties of disorientation I eventually drifted into a place of understanding and culpability. It’s been a bumpy ride.
In my earlier years, I didn’t know that sitting alone in my closet for hours on end wasn’t normal or that thinking up a new person wanting to be her was strange. (her name was Kala) Nobody told me that the constant feeling of defeat and anguish wasn’t the way everybody felt.
I also didn’t know that begging for love wasn’t something that everyone needed to do. I thought I was a difficult person to love, that it was my fault.
Learning through a shit ton of self-reflection and research that there were reasons for these feelings and the behaviour that stemmed from them (All of which could have been dealt with and healed if I had only known to try.) helped me start my journey of getting to know myself.
It’s been more than 10 years being on anti-depressants though I’m trying not to count. I was co-dependent and sure as shit not unloveable.
It’s not like I don’t have these feelings anymore, the difference is that I now can work through them knowing where they come from and what I can do to feel better. I no longer feel trapped in my own life.
Getting to know ourselves is a continuous process, we all change somewhat over time. Certain things in our lives teach us and change our personal values, something might become more important to you because of something you went through or gained insight on.
When you know what’s important to you it’s way easier to make decisions, deal with life in general and become or be proud of the person you are/want to be. How can you feel proud of your magnificent-ass self if you’re confused about who that is?
Start to Get to Know Yourself with 25 Questions
25 questions to get to know yourself
- What are some things that I really care about
- What motivates me
- What are my morals and values
- What types of things do I find funny
- What angers me
- What brings me peace
- What are my dreams and aspirations
- What influences me
- Reasons why I’m a good person
- Things that I like about my personality
- What embarrasses me
- What kinds of people do I like being around
- What do I want to portray to the world
- What do I like about my appearance
- What am I proud of myself for
- What are some of my learning experiences
- What types of relationships do I have in my life
- What do I want more of
- What do I like doing
- What makes me feel loved
- How do I show love
- What is a feel-good way to spend my time
- What is something that makes my heart sing
- How do I perceive the world we live in
- What are some things I may be neglecting in my life
Print out the 25 questions and really answer them. Don’t rip yourself off by half-assing it. This is the start of knowing the most important person you’ll ever know, you.
